Christmas, the time of the year when most people get together with their families and spend time with their loved ones. But Christmas isn’t all white and merry for some of us. It’s widely known to be a stressful time, but it may also be triggering for those who have suffered trauma at the hands of those who should have…
Admitting to having experienced any kind of abuse, is an extremely hard thing to do to begin with. But when those around us respond by saying “it could have been worse” and/or proceed to compare our abuse to something else, it makes it even worse. Let me explain why… One of the “side effects” (let’s call it that for the…
Sympathising comes from the word sympathy, which is similar to having compassion. Empathy, on the other hand, means having the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. The two verbs are often used interchangeably, although they have fundamental differences. When you sympathise with someone, you understand what they are going through, from your point of view. You see someone…
There’s a problem I think is growing by the minute: the way trauma, specifically of the emotional and psychological kind, is being talked about online. Now, before you accuse me of being a hypocrite who’s criticizing others for doing what she herself is doing, please let me explain. Defining psychological or emotional trauma isn’t easy, much like defining emotional or…
I used to hate conflict. Fear it, even. Just the thought of having to have a serious conversation with someone would make my skin crawl and make me want to sink into a hole on the ground. Confrontations were particularly scary for me. My people pleasing conditioning definitely played a role in how it affected me. After all, I had…
